Will Work For Nothing

Question: Would you like to know which life theory is a giant slice of bullshit?
Answer: The one about relationships being hard work.

“If you want this relationship to work out, it’s gonna take a lot of hard work”. How many times has some seemingly well-informed soul unleashed this piece of mendacity onto your struggling self? We are taught to invest in this sordid lie and then we waste our time “working” at making our doomed relationships something we have dreamed up in our mind as amazing that the other party, or possibly even our own self, is not capable of. If two beings can’t be rational and understanding, all the work in the world is a hopeless effort at making these relationships something they will never be.

Question: How do I know this?
Answer: Because we participate in functional relationships every day. They are called friendships and they are easy.

If a relationship with a significant other takes so much work, why are relationships with friends so easy, and uncomplicated, and fun and filled with love and acceptance? Is it because we aren’t banging our friends? Are we supposed to believe that sex is the originating source for all the hard work? I don’t believe it.

When we love someone we are willing to put in hard work, we actually want to work, because we want the relationship to work. But love is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship. You can genuinely love someone endlessly and it still does not mean a partnership will ever be successful.

I don’t want to “work” at a relationship, I’m not going to and why should anyone have to? Relationships of love should be as easy as relationships of friendship. The right relationships should be easy and natural and shouldn’t require any more work than it does to maintain a friendship. I don’t have the time, the emotional threshold, the patience, or the telepathic power to make something difficult into a lifetime of struggle. It should be the ease of your best friend with the bonus of sexual desire.

“The WRONG relationships take hard work.” This is the piece of wisdom we should be sharing with eachother.